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 Ground rules for Self-Injury Message Boards

 

Please don't:

  • Post personal information (your real name, address, phone number, etc.) on screen. It is extremely important to keep yourself safe.

Please don't:

  • Post any material likely to cause offence, or information that is protected by copyright, trademark or other proprietary right – without express permission of the owner of such copyright – or that contains personal 'phone numbers or addresses.

Please don't:

  • Give graphic details of your self-injury − it may prove detrimental to yourself or triggering to other visitors. The aim of this discussion board is to offer support to those who wish to recover from self-injury, and to work towards a life free from self-injury. It is acceptable to ask questions about self-injury or to mention slip-ups, setbacks, etc., but providing graphic details may be harmful for not only yourself, but for other posters too. 

   "Triggering" Posts  

This is a self-injury board, thus, we must respect the varied backgrounds and experiences of all our visitors and posters. If your post contains anything that might cause concern or distress to another visitor, please flag your post as "Triggering". If you are uncertain whether your post might be triggering, you could add the title "Possibly Triggering" so visitors are warned before they decide whether to read the post. The following topics have been deemed “triggering” and therefore will need to be titled as such:

 Abuse:

Please do not give graphic descriptions of abuse. It is acceptable to say that you were abused without a trigger warning. If you choose to go into MINOR detail, please trigger your post with an “abuse” warning ("Triggering − Abuse").

 Suicide:

Please do not post messages that threaten or encourage suicide. These will be removed immediately due to causing others distress. It IS ok to talk about suicide, but it must be posted with a “suicide” warning in the subject line ("Triggering − Suicide"). This board is not a suicide prevention forum. If you are feeling suicidal and need support, please click on the link below for a list of UK and US help lines:
http://www.siari.co.uk/Helplines/Helplines+UK+Hotlines+USA.htm#Helplines

 Religious/Faith References:

There are many people who have been abused with religious undertones or have suffered ritual abuse, and to them, mention of religious/worship/faith practices or verbiage may be a real turnoff and/or a strong trigger. It IS ok to speak of religion/beliefs/faith if it is relevant to your post; however, you will need to trigger your message with either a “religion” or “faith” trigger (“Triggering – Religion” or “Triggering – Faith”). Please do not attempt to convert others to your way of religious/faith thinking as attempts of this nature will be met with removal of the post.

 Weight and Eating Issues/Disorders:

Due to the fact that SI and eating disorders often go hand in hand, please do not post weight numbers or weight loss tips, tricks, or descriptions. These types of postings can be very triggering for others who are either struggling with weight issues/eating disorders or have in the past. It IS ok to talk about eating problems in and of themselves, however, please trigger posts of this nature with a “food issue” trigger warning (“Triggering – Food Issue”) in the header of your post.

Please don't:

Read possible triggering posts if you are feeling unsafe. The "flagging" system has been applied to benefit every visitor who comes to the board. If you are feeling particularly vulnerable, anxious or unsafe, please avoid reading possible triggering posts for the benefit of your own safety.

Please don't:

  • Make derogatory remarks, name-call, or use abusive language towards other participants. Self-Injury is a sensitive issue and it is vital that you show respect for each other. Every one of you is a unique individual with your own thoughts, feelings and opinions, and it is perfectly natural that you will not always see eye-to-eye with other peoples' views. Any feedback offered should be constructive (e.g., helpful comments on the topic being discussed), and not a personal attack on an individual.

Please don't:

  • Advertise or add a link to your commercial website or organization. This includes "chain" letters, pyramid selling, multi-level marketing, or other similar activities.

Please don't:

  • Make requests for people to participate in research projects. Please contact Jan Sutton and she will post your request elsewhere on the site if it is considered appropriate.

Please do:

  • Accept that other people think and feel differently to you.  Sometimes it might seem that someone is in a very similar situation to you and you might think that you know how that person feels, but we are all different and we all act and react in different ways, thus, it is virtually impossible to feel the way someone else feels. While you can offer support to individuals on the board, please be careful about saying that you “know” how they feel.

Please do:

  • Respond with sensitivity and caring.  People who come to this board are generally looking for a place where they can find non-judgemental support. It is therefore important that the board provides a sensitive and caring place for our members and visitors. Please help each other feel safe within this environment by demonstrating concern, compassion, and empathy for one another.

Please do:

  • Stick to the topic being discussed.  It is very easy to become distracted and inadvertently move away from the current topic. Please make sure that you keep to the topic in hand. If you wish to introduce a new topic please start another thread.

Please note:

·         The moderators actively scrutinize the contents of posted messages but do not verify or guarantee the accuracy, comprehensiveness or helpfulness of any message, or bear responsibility for any loss, damage, or other liabilities caused by any posted message. The messages convey only the views of the author of the message. Any user who feels that a posted message is offensive, is encouraged to contact the moderators immediately by email. They have the ability to remove distasteful messages and will make every effort to do so as soon as possible should they consider that deletion is necessary.
 

·         The moderators reserve the right to delete any posts that contravene these ground rules in any way.

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